I learned two things today one I was betrayed and two what made me so angry about it was that it put be back into the role of the victim.


Betrayal hurts our heart and our soul, and we feel afraid to risk ourselves in relationships and endeavors in our lives. Even more importantly, it destroys central trust, which prevents us from being able to be truly present and free to love and create in our lives.

  1. We all experience betrayal in our lives.
    2. Betrayal challenges us to not assume.
    3. When we experience fully the grief from betrayal, we come to a place of acceptance and accompanying forgiveness.
    4. Acceptance and forgiveness do not excuse or erase the betrayal – instead, they allow us to let go and freely be present in our lives.

Betrayal is a horribly packaged gift that transforms us to create new and better chapters in our unfolding lives. Betrayal brings a whole new chapters of better possibilities to our lives and, in other unrelated ways, extends our personal integrity and sets us free.

How do you heal betrayal?

– The first step is naming it, acknowledging that it happened
rather than pretending it didn’t. It needs to be admitted,
rather than rationalized or defended in any way. Remember,
there are many levels of betrayal.
– Next, the feelings need to be expressed, not explained. There may be fear, anger, hurt, sadness, grief, even rage.

-Then there is acceptance and finding the blessing within the betrayal and the release to freedom to be you.


About bttrflysprit

Mother, daughter, wife, sister, MPD/DID, woman, someones child, are some of my titles. I am who I am and I am learning to be happy with that.

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  1. Vicki says:

    WOW, what can i say but your conversation earlier to day must have been fantastic. Betrayal is so very hard on so many levels, and although it does allow new avenues to travel, sometimes the loss because of the betrayal can’t not be always over looked but adjusted to living with it as it is something that you can not change. aknowledgement doesn’t have to mean you like something just that you know it is there , that is has changed your life and letting it go. I am so happy for you that you have allowed this healing and are moving forward

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